(Catriona/U.S./Ireland — Cathy/Ireland) — Boulder, CO: Cathy and Catriona met in 2006 while trekking in the Himalayas. Now mothers to a son from Guatemala and two daughters from Haiti, they were devastated earlier this year when Cathy’s second work visa was denied. All they knew was that they would do anything to keep their family together despite the unjust Defense of Marriage Act that threatens to tear them apart.
(Enzo/U.S./Argentina — Andres/Uruguay) — Brooklyn, NY: In 1996, Andres received the highest rank that a Mormon missionary could achieve because he was an expert on promoting the Proclamation of the Family, which defines marriage as a union between one man and one woman. Now, he is on another mission — to educate people on the different types of families, rooted in love and all deserving of equality.
(Ariana/U.S./Colombia — Diana/Colombia) — Brooklyn, NY: Ariana and Diana met over a decade ago through the Latina lesbian community while living in San Francisco. At the time, Diana was simply looking for sanctuary after enduring tremendous violence, both anti-gay and otherwise, in her home country. Now married and the mothers of 2-year-old Gabriela, they dread the thought of their family being torn apart because of the Defense of Marriage Act.
A gay rights activist since the ’70s, Judy Rickard has been highlighting the struggles of same-sex binational couples since falling in love with Karin, a U.K. citizen. Now married, they are advocating for green card applications like theirs to be held in abeyance while DOMA proceeds through the courts, or is repealed by Congress. Judy is the author of Torn Apart: United by Love, Divided by Law.
Lesbian and gay binational spouses from across America are asserting their equality by petitioning for green cards based on their marriages and demanding equal treatment under federal law. They are sharing their personal struggles living under the Defense of Marriage Act to end this prejudicial law, while ensuring their experiences are archived as history that should be learned from and never repeated.
(Becky/U.S. — Sanne/Netherlands) — Asheville, NC: Becky and Sanne first met while traveling around India several years ago. Though able to live freely in The Netherlands, the first country in the world to grant full marriage rights to same sex spouses, they are raising their 2-year-old daughter, Willow, in Asheville, North Carolina, near the family, mountains, and community they love.
(Yohandel/U.S./Cuba — Daniel/Mexico) — Miami, FL: Ever since they first locked eyes across a South Beach dance floor, Yohandel and Daniel knew they were meant to be together. Following their wedding in early 2012, Daniel overstayed his visa to remain in the U.S. knowing the risks and sacrifices it entailed. Yohandel, a Cuban immigrant, contrasts the breach of civil rights inherent in DOMA with the free U.S. his father told him about before moving to this country.
Once upon a member of the UK boy band, Bad Boys Inc., David W. Ross brings to light the harsh reality for binational same-sex couples in America in his upcoming feature film, ‘I Do’. Here, he discusses his inspirations for telling this story as well as his decision to come out of the closet despite what it could mean for his career as an actor in Hollywood.